Gabor Maté on ADHD in kids: "It's not a disorder—it's a coping mechanism for a sensitive child in a stressed family."
In this powerful clip, Maté reframes ADHD as the brain's way of protecting itself:
- Sensitive, empathetic children absorb parental/family stress.
- They "go absent-minded" to self-protect (not defiance or laziness).
- Often highly talented, warm-hearted, deeply feeling.
- They crave emotional security above all—understanding, not just behavior fixes or meds.
"Once you realize a kid is like that... make them feel emotionally safe."
A compassionate shift from "fix the child" to "heal the environment."
Parents/teachers: Does this resonate with what you've seen in kids (or even yourself growing up)? What helped create real emotional safety? Share your thoughts/experiences respectfully below.