In a certain occasion, the Lord warned those who were listening to him: Why do you focus on the speck in your brother's eye, and do not see the beam in yours? Or how are you going to tell your brother: let me take the speck out of your eye, when you have a beam in yours? Hypocrite, first take the beam out of your eye and then you will be able to take the speck out of your brother's eye.
A manifestation of humility is to avoid negative, and often unfair, judgment about others.
Due to our personal pride, the smallest faults that affect others are magnified, while, by contrast, one's own greater defects tend to be diminished and justified. Moreover, pride tends to project onto others what are actually one's own imperfections and errors. That is why Saint Augustine wisely advised: "Seek to acquire the virtues that you believe are lacking in your brothers, and you will no longer see their defects, because you will not have them yourselves"
Humility, on the contrary, positively exerts its influence on a series of virtues that allow for human and Christian coexistence. Only the humble person is in a position to forgive, to understand, and to help, because only they are aware of having received everything from God, and know their miseries and how much they are in need of divine mercy. Hence, they treat their neighbor - even when judging - with understanding, excusing and forgiving when necessary. On the other hand, our vision of others' actions will always be very limited, for only God penetrates the most intimate intentions, reads hearts, and gives the true value to all the circumstances that accompany an action.
We must learn to excuse the defects, perhaps evident and undeniable, of those we deal with daily, in such a way that we do not separate ourselves from them or cease to appreciate them because of their failures or incorrections. Let us learn from the Lord, who "not being able to excuse in any way the sin of those who had put him on the cross, nevertheless tries to mitigate the malice, alleging their ignorance. When we cannot excuse the sin, let us at least judge it worthy of compassion, attributing it to the most tolerant cause that can be applied to it, such as ignorance or weakness"
If we exercise ourselves in seeing the qualities of our neighbor, we will discover that those deficiencies in their character, those faults in their behavior are, ordinarily, of little significance compared to the virtues they possess. This positive, just attitude towards those we habitually deal with will help us greatly to draw closer to the Lord, for we will grow in inner mortification, in charity, and in humility. "Let us always strive," advised Saint Teresa, "to look at the virtues and good things we see in others, and cover their defects with our great sins. It is a way of acting that, although it may not be done perfectly at first, one comes to gain a great virtue, which is to consider everyone better than ourselves, and by this one begins to gain God's favor"
Faced with the deficiencies of others, even with external sins (murmurings, lack of industriousness...), we must adopt a positive attitude: first pray for them, make amends to the Lord, exercise patience and fortitude, love and appreciate them more, because they need it more; help them loyally with fraternal correction.
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