My children are 9 and almost 8 (in two months) and they look at me for approval, and love and acceptance. They want my attention and love. I think no matter what age we may be, we are always looking for and wanting that approval, love and acceptance from our parents – estranged or not.
I find children to be one of the greatest gifts God can give to someone. The love I feel for my children is only a fraction of the love God feels for me, and I think he lets us be parents to give us just the slightest glimpse of it.
There is no excuse for abandoning, abusing or in any way emotionally, physically or mentally harming your child. There is a difference between discipline and abuse.
If you are divorced with children, don’t replace your children, integrate them into the new family – don’t make them feel like they are being replaced. Be sensitive to their situation and how they feel.
Listen to your children. Let them know they are wanted and loved. Let them know they are important. I was watching a television show and the father/grandfather of the show was going to visit his own mother, and he was anxious and nervous – because his mother never made him feel important or loved. It took his son telling her what he did for her to make her aware of her inactive affection and outward approval of him. Children and adults experience this on a daily basis.
It is a sad commentary on parents. Life is too short and time with your children is too short to throw it away out of selfishness. Children will one day become adults. We need to cherish the time we have with them and give them the support and love they need so that one day they can be parents who do the same.
Hug your kids!
by April Dye